Freedom Note: “Twice As Good” for what?

“Twice as Good”

If you are a Black person over the age of 55, being told that in order to be successful, over and over again that you have to be “twice as good” was a mantra that came from parents, church, school. You inherently understood this message.  It lived with you most of the time in study and other endeavors, as you entered a new world brought on my the civil rights movement. In many ways, the message translated into “twice as good and twice as right”. Overachievement and a lifetime of seeking perfection. Never letting up, always winning.  Always running as hard as you can to beat the odds and avoid failure.

The mantra popped up in a recent episode of the ABC series, “Scandal” in a scene with Olivia Pope, the main character who is a “political crisis fixer” and her Father, Rowan, a powerful Washington insider. In this scene, he reiterates what we were all told, you have to be “twice as good to get half of what they have”. We were told this, even when our parents had no idea of what the really had. They did know, however, how far they were willing to go to keep it for themselves and from us.

I watched it with great interest, seeing yet again the damage that we inflict on our children in our quest to prove that being Black deserves respect, and that we are worthy. In the quest to prepare our children, foster their survival, prepare them for the duality and inequities, and on-slaughter . . . just what are we to do as parents?

The “brown-eyes” parents in the Jane Elliott exercises have no idea the corner in which Black parents have to paint their children to meet the challenges of race discrimination and the realities of an endless battle against white privilege in order to win.

For many Blacks, the “twice as good” worked.  I wonder often at what price ?

One thought on “Freedom Note: “Twice As Good” for what?

  1. I feel the main emphasis should be on being twice (or even more times) as good as you can be! Not as good as anybody else. But striving to be the ‘best you’ you can be, not competing with the white girl out there. Parents have a role to guide, encourage and motivate their kids to be the best in themselves. The challenge is not to overdo things to the extent that the child is under constant unhealthy pressure to meet up with some unreasonably high standard. My 2 cents…

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